“What if pursuing this dream was a fool’s errand? I almost cancelled then and there, as fear of rejection and failure stared me in the face. But instead I sat in my living room and gathered my courage, imperfect though it was. I decided to simply go scared.”

Jessica Honegger, in Imperfect Courage

Well, I don’t know about you but THIS quote hit me square in the heart and mind! We have all been there:

Procrastinating, worrying, feeling nauseous, heart pounding, doubting…

Or maybe instead, we’ve chosen to deal with it by mentally walking away, pretending something didn’t need our attention.

Two sides of the same coin:

Fear.

I thought a moment about the idea of Imperfect Courage and that led me to the next level: being willing to be OKAY with it being “imperfect”. (Yep, there’s the crux of it right there! I have a hard time with going out there “unprepared”, so I talk myself into more procrastination…and many things just don’t get done.) But the idea of being okay with “imperfect”…gave me such a feeling of relief…I was floored. I wanted to experience more of that.

I actually thought to myself (with love and humor)!…

“Hey wait! You can totally do THAT!!” (Be imperfect!) LOL

Seriously, though…

To even pause, in that one moment, I could begin to change my thinking, and THAT feels like “Freedom Happening” before my eyes.

And I also realized that choosing to “go scared” is not only just for our “big ventures”: our Dreams. We can also use it to face down those “smaller” everyday thoughts and situations that arise…

To say, “I can succeed even when…or especially when…my courage is imperfect.”

To say, “I can do this, with what I have, right now.”

When a difficult conversation looms…

When my job interview is tomorrow…

When I’m worried about the health of a loved one…

When I give a talk in front of a crowd…

When someone is grieving and I don’t know what to say…

These more “everyday” situations are where I can hone and build my self-trust, bolstering myself while exploring my greater Dreams too.

To be okay with whatever Courage I believe I have right in this moment….

Hmmm…

Now that I think about it…

Maybe our courage is not really imperfect at all.

“Imperfect”, after all, is a subjective label, a judgement.

Perhaps, instead, Courage is simply a matter of action vs. inaction.

Because the only time my courage would be imperfect…

is when I choose not to use it!

Maybe our courage is not really imperfect at all:

Maybe it’s just a matter of pausing to shift my perception…again, Power is in the Pause!

Feeling fear could be viewed instead as just the lovely (albeit uncomfortable!) reminder that I am responsible.

That I am in charge (of myself). That I am not a victim of anything or anyone…

So it doesn’t matter what state we may perceive that our courage is in.

It’s not a question of “enough”.

The power of our courage truly lies in whether we put it into action…

Or leave it on the shelf.

Where is my Courage right now?

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Think of a belief (or situation) that is causing you to keep your Courage on a shelf.

Take a few moments to wonder if you could be okay with your current “imperfect courage.”

Be curious.

Figure out where you may have stashed your Courage. Yes, we may have to search for it and yes, it may be in a dark corner, but it’s there.

See yourself remove it from the shelf; now bring it into the light.

Dust it off.

Look it over.

While it may not look like “enough”…consider these thoughts:

What might be the first step you could take with this courage you see in your hands?

Could you take that one first step with this present courage?

Remember “enough” is a label, so let’s sidestep that idea briefly and ask again,

Could you take that one first step with this present courage?

Still not sure?

Oh wait…

You just took it off the shelf.

You are holding it.

You own it.

So you’re good to go.

2 thoughts on “Courage Is…

  1. Ohhh, this is your best one yet. Thank you for inviting me to look at how I see my level of courage. “Perhaps, instead, Courage is simply a matter of action vs. inaction. Because the only time my courage would be imperfect…is when I choose not to use it!” That is genius, my dear friend. When I can see that by not taking action I am defining the amount of courage I have as “not enough” – and no one is judging that but ME – then I can choose to take any action, even the smallest step towards my goal, dream, vision, and see the courage it took to take that step as perfectly imperfect. And for someone whose mantra for this year is embracing imperfection, that’s exactly what I need to hear.

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    1. Carole, I always love your comments because you take the ideas to another level, express them clearly and warmly and make these often difficult hurdles in our lives easier to grasp and apply in our everyday lives. Your honesty and openness is rare and more appreciated than you may ever know. Thank YOU for bringing these beautifully creative characteristics of yourself to this place: I am thankful every day for you and all that you are!😊💕👭🕉

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