Balancing Act

“I no longer wait to be perfect in order to love myself.” 
Louise Hay

[Ask yourself] “Who am I when I am not judging myself?” 
Robert Holden

“Who would you be without that thought?”

Question 4 from The Work by Byron Katie


Three inspirations from three great souls!

Which one feels like it is yours today?

Give this a try:

Pause to note any self-critical thought…. 
And choose to say within, 
“I give you permission to pass by.” 

Sit still… 

See them float away.
And do not grace such thoughts with the least further attention. 

Know instead that each and every one of them is truly gifting us with yet another chance to say in our heart: 

“I no longer wait to be perfect in order to love myself.” 

Take a moment to practice:

Balance one self-judgement with a single self-loving affirmation.

Notice: what happens inside, in your mind, your heart, your soul?

Perhaps saying such strong words of self-love is still too tender a place to go? 
Ease in with these phrases instead: 

“I am WILLING to wait to be perfect…I am WILLING to learn to love myself.

I am WILLING to look for the Joy of Being Me.” 

As the critical voice loses power, the loving voice strengthens…

You will find that very soon you are growing unconditional love for yourself.

Allow curiosity to win over.

Wonder to yourself,

“Just how many times might I do this today?”

Then tonight, answer yourself:

“It happened ______ times!”

Lovingly ask those same questions…


And tomorrow.

And tomorrow!

Even to have it happen only once…

Marks the beginning of a new path.

Walk there.

In our own mind… 
Then tricking down to connect to our own heart….
We find we can return to Wholeness and Healing. 

Dear souls, you are exactly, perfectly Who You Are… 


Right Now. 

For this is 

And you need never be any more or less 


The Eternal Student

“Learn to live without self concern. For this you must know your own true being as indomitable, fearless, ever victorious. Once you know with absolute certainty that nothing can trouble you but your own imagination, you come to disregard your desires and fears, concepts and ideas, and live by truth alone”.

“Just realise you are dreaming a dream you call the world and stop looking for ways out. The dream is not your problem. Your problem is that you like one part of your dream and not another. Love all or none of it, and stop complaining. When you have seen the dream as a dream, you have done all that needs to be done”.

Nisargadatta Maharaj

I am struck by the first word in this quote:


If I allow myself to be consumed with worry, despondency or dread that I cannot possibly accomplish such a total relinquishment of this “dream” I am constantly creating, then I have missed the point contained in the first word that Nisargadatta Maharaj presents to us.


To LEARN is to apply myself to something by moving forward, one small step at a time. The distance does not matter.

Only the act of movement.

Only my willingness to Pause…

Only my willingness to shift and make a change.

My ineptitude?

My lack of experience?

My fears and excuses?

These actually do not factor in at all…

And I will do well to remember this is so.

If I am LEARNING, then I am never required to be instantaneously the Master.

I am a Student.

One who seeks.

One who is beginning…

Over and over again…

And content to be doing so,

Adding layer upon layer to find only more layers.

I am ever the Student…

And I find contentment in the seeking.

I am therefore freed from the pressure to be Perfect…

To be the Best…

To “find a way out”.

The “way out” is to choose not to resist.

I can take any action I wish, of course. But my best choices are those that I can only perceive AFTER I have stepped away a moment from my constant grasping, or pushing away of, what I do or do not like.

If I can LEARN to take note of those moments when I find I am clinging or resisting, those are the flashes of light in my heart that enable me to see more of the whole…

Not just my limited “dreams”. These moments are when my visual field can expand…

Because only there, can my perspective alter.

Learning to see “the dream as a dream” is, for me, like a slow awakening…

A coming to the surface after being long submerged in a very deep sleep.

The act of coming to the surface is the LEARNING process.

And it is okay for me to be where I am…

During that swim towards the top.

I am beginning to understand only lately just how much of a Beginner I am.

My “dreaming” ~ my personal “take” on reality ~ often hinders me:

It keeps me from allowing my curiosity to explore…

“What else might be hidden within this situation?

This person?

This line of thinking: mine or another’s?”



Present tense.


Learning implies movement, not stasis…

A process.

This give me tremendous relief to know I do not have to…

KNOW it all.

DO it all.

HAVE it all.

I am simply here to LEARN…

Above all…

That I am

…”indomitable, fearless, ever victorious”…

As I learn.

And so, in seeking the Truth, I MUST always put LEARNING as my primary focus…

For learning requires




And only with these…

Will I “learn to live”

With Peace.

Within me…

And in our world.


“The life I touch for good or ill will touch another life, and that in turn another until who knows where the trembling stops or in what far place my touch will be felt.”

Frederick Buechner

Welcome to 2019, Everyone!!

Newsflash for our Beautiful New Year:

“You ARE important…

So VERY important.”


Each of us has a “touch”…

Our own “Fingerprints on the world”, if you will.

And like fingerprints, we leave them behind for others to see.

They’re everywhere we’ve ever been.


Your completed thoughts

Your words

Your actions

Are already



And acting

In places unseen and unheard by you.

We ~ our spiritual presence in this world ~ continue to



And act

AFTER we are “done doing so” in this physical moment.

We leave our fingerprints

Everywhere we go.

This is how we can each be




You and I?

We ARE important.





Our “touch”, as Buechner so eloquently puts it, goes out…and continues to do so.

The idea that I am “alive”…present…in this way elsewhere…?

That there are actions to come that are “rippling” from the “touch” of my thoughts and speech when I am no longer there to be involved in them…?


That’s truly a colossal mind shift.

How does this realization change what I…

Will think

Will say

Will do?

Right now?


Take a few moments to Pause…

And Ponder…

Where could we each go with this idea?


“How do I see myself…

Moving in the parts of my world

When I am no longer physically there

To “see” what I am doing?”


What fingerprints

Do you truly


To leave



All over the world





What Is Your “Superpower”?

“When we imagine suffering, we suffer. When we imagine joy, we rejoice. Imagination is the superpower of the human species. Use your powers for good.”

Martha Beck

What are you thinking right now?


How about now?


And now?


To imagine, we must choose to Pause long enough to do so.

What we imagine, we bring into existence.

So even in our darkest times, we can always envision “Light”…just like the small spotlight shining on the flower in the picture above:

Darkness surrounds the flower…yet it glows with the light before it.

Imagination is the “light” before our eyes.


How will you use your “superpower” for good today?


Today’s challenge:

Search your heart for just one single compassionate “superpower move” you could enact.

Envision how you could bring this “move” to life, somewhere, sometime, into your activities today.

See yourself going through this action and completing it, step by step. It’s important to see yourself doing it; just thinking about it – or hoping it – is not enough.

See your vision happening.


Sometime today…

Act upon it.

Say to yourself:

“I am brave. My heart has chosen. I am now empowered.”

Repeat these phrases as needed.

Observe your thoughts, feelings and needs surrounding this action: before, during after the action.

What comes up?

Continue to observe what is happening within your mind, your body, your spirit…before, during, after…

but always carefully refrain from judgement during this adventure.

(Yes! It really is an adventure!)

Notice what roles Fear might be playing.


Do not back off from following through with your action.

A Superhero/Superheroine never backs away…

Because they have already “seen” it happening.

Will yourself – steel yourself – to go through with this action that your heart has chosen.

And then notice what is shifting in your life because you have taken this action.


Repeat this imagination process

With another action…

And another.


And again.

And see your strength improve as you do.

You are getting stronger every moment you use your Powers.

We are all practicing…


So we are never alone.


We are ALL




Find yours.

Acknowledge it.

Love it.

And then share it today.

And each day that follows.


Oh…And by the way…


You have more than one Superpower.

So get ready to



The Hidden Child

“Overcome the notion that you must be regular. It robs you of the chance to be extraordinary.”

Uta Hagen

Pause a moment to consider:

What extraordinary parts of myself do I still keep tucked away?

Dare I ask…


Let us take a few moments to select one of these “tucked away” yet extraordinary parts within ourselves to cradle with love and acceptance…

A smile

A kind word

A gesture of assistance…

This time TO YOURSELF.

Breathe deeply

Just stay still a moment longer

While you hold this “newborn child”…

This child



This miracle is




With no reservation.

This is


No longer feared

And hidden away.

Finally, notice what happenis as when we choose to “own” the following affirmation

For this beautiful child we hold:



I give myself permission

To be Me”🦋


See the miracle child that is you

Being gently rocked

Gently rocked…

In the arms of your heart.





“This body is a guesthouse each morning someone new arrives.

Welcome them all for they may be messengers from the invisible.

Each time a thought enters your heart treat it as an honored guest…

Be grateful for all you receive, good and bad alike, for it may be a gift from the treasury of Spirit that will bring fulfillment of your most secret desire.”

Excerpts from Rumi’s Little Book of Life: The Garden of the Soul, The Heart, and the Spirit p.16 (trans: Mafi/Kolin)


Who is that, knocking at our own door right now?

Oh what to do? What to do?!?!

So hard to decide:

Stay or Go?!


What if we choose “No”?

Refusing to answer

Because our heart rides river rapids filled with dread

Buoyed by belligerent resentment

Maybe afloat on the ballast of invincible assurance of our “rightness”, another’s “wrong”.

Or perhaps instead we are submerged by waves of fear, watching as our confidence…

Water in a desert…

Trickles away to nothing?

With “No” I will risk

Never knowing:

…Who took the time

To stop by.

…Who would explain the “Why?” of their presence

At this exact moment.

…What unlikely Visitor would deliver a message carried miles for me alone?

“No” says:

“I elect to live with a Lesser Stream of water

One less turbulent…

Tho it leave me



What was mine in that moment…

Now gone.”

So then I muse,

“Just how long could one truly and fully sustain a life with such choices?”

Time would surely float past

The water closing ever so slowly overhead

Barely perceptible but…







…we chose instead “Yes”…?

No matter how our Visitor may frighten us?

Anger us?

Sadden us?

No matter how ill-timed their arrival may be?


The new possibility gifted to us

At the sound of every knock.

Imagine instead choosing a “Yes” called Curiosity.

Trembling hand on the door knob

Poised in stillness

For a mere single droplet of a moment



Lean away just a degree or two from our

Hammering heart hesitations

Only long enough

To peer out…


Just a fraction



What we thought surely must be there.

Slowly now



Finding in the act of opening

Of looking…

We are gifted instead

With a sharp knife of




Slicing the shadows cleanly away.

We now see

On our doorstep

One small lost piece of our True Self






To hear “Yes! You belong. Your respite is here.”


“Yes” promises

We need never live

In doubt

Or fear




We will Seek

And Find


Our own Miracle Visitor…

With every knock.


Oh say “Yes”,


Vow never again

To close that door.

Puzzle Pieces


Exactly what you wish to receive.”


We often feel sad or anxious or angry

That there are things that are “missing” in our life.

This could be a closer relationship

Or even a relationship, period.

Perhaps it’s

More appreciation

More respect

More beauty…

It could be

More money


Or clothing…

Maybe more peace

More compassion

More understanding.

Always we sense there should be “more”

Because in some ways, we see ourselves

Or our lives

As “lacking”


“Not enough.”

But what if these missing “puzzle pieces”

Are our teachers?

Our tools?

Our chance to change the direction of our path?

What if the “More”…

Needs to come FROM me

Not TO me?

What would happen if I took any one of those “missing pieces”

And gave them instead to someone else?

…If I began practicing looking for people or places that are offering me opportunities

Right now

To give out

Just exactly what I BELIEVE I want to have in my own life?


Pause a few moments.

What do you see missing in your life?

Name it.

Speak a phrase of gratitude for that feeling of “lack”.

You are actually now one single step away

From receiving what you need.


Look for someone

Or somewhere

To give that very thing away…

In place of wishing it for yourself.


Our puzzles 🧩

Will fill in

Piece by piece…

And peace by peace…

As we help others to fill theirs.

I Believe In…

“Be the reason someone still believes in magic, truth, authenticity, compassion, intelligent conversation and love that doesn’t have an agenda.”

Brook Hampton

Whether we confirm and solidify someone’s outlook or rattle it and start a change within them, our individual energy is always a “player in the game”.

Realizing that we have an effect ~ even an unconscious one ~ places us squarely into the Seat of Responsibility.

For ourselves.

And secondarily for others.

I’m not saying I control others’ thoughts and actions…

But I can be more aware of how I enter a situation and how I wish it to come out. If I plan a win-win scenario, I am more likely to experience that then if I plow in with little to no forethought about how I want to show up.

“Who do I want to be?”

“What do I want to reflect?”


How will others walk away from an interaction with me…what might they take away?

if I’m going to be sitting there, I’d much rather have some idea of how I want to direct things from there.

Three quick and simple actions to add a Pause into your day:


Somewhere between the time you wake up and the time your feet hit the floor, close your eyes, take one minute to choose how you might affect someone’s belief system. Do you want to present “compassion”? Unconditional love? Patience How do you see yourself “changing someone’s mind?”

Your presence is always a catalyst, so being aware of your effect holds enormous power. We need wisdom, and then some!

Practicing awareness is key.


But how can I STAY aware?

Well…this won’t happen all at once. It’s a habit and so it begins with smaller steps.

Read on!



Pause…and prepare to look for a “Trigger Moment” ahead of time. Say your day will include driving in heavy traffic, or maybe dealing with a judgmental coworker, or possibly being confronted with an angry person whose anger actually has nothing to do with you:

These are examples of “Trigger Moments”.

By seeing yourself entering such moments ahead of time mentally, you will be “triggered” to more easily notice them…and this helps you to remember how you wanted to “be the reason” for someone to believe in something like magic, truth etc as Hampton encourages us above.

Visualization ahead of time is an easy way to remind ourselves to be present.

Before you go to sleep:

Pause to review the events of your day where your Trigger Moments occurred.

Review how you “showed up”. Did you behave as planned?

Were there some glitches(!) in the process?

Without judging, note what you felt were successful ventures and which could use a little more time, thought and preparation. What would you change so that when your Trigger Moment happens in the future, you can move in with a different approach?


Keeping a note pad by your bed to jot down key words that motivate you for the next experiences coming your way…(I like using the memo pad in my phone)…

Perhaps sketching a picture…

Creating a mini collage (on a note card) of pictures from a magazine…

Or perhaps recalling (and softly singing!) lyrics to a song that deals with your focus…

Things like these can only help solidify our resolve to notice more, to re-evaluate, to shift and to take action.


Pause to consider:

How did you “make magic” appear in your day?

For yourself?

For someone else?

How will you do it again…


Inner Creates Outer

“As I renew myself, I renew the world.”

Deepak Chopra

This statement was the Centering Thought for Day 21 of a Deepak Chopra meditation series called “Energize Your Life”.


I see I could take this to the next level.

Fill in the blank:

As I _________ myself, I _________ the world.

Let me try…



Show compassion to


Take care of

Listen to

Am curious about

How do those feel within me, to sit with those choices?

Conversely, I could have also filled in the first blank with:


Feel anger about







Feel hopeless about

What is the feeling within me, as I sit with those choices?


How I fill in that first blank will direct what I think.

What I think repeatedly will eventually become what I believe.

What I believe will always direct my actions.

And so in this way, my outward actions are reflections of my inner world.

Inner creates Outer.


What would your beautiful heart, your miraculous True Self, desire to put in your first blank right now?

How, where and when do you envision putting that into a concrete action today?

In what ways could you imagine the world around you might change, if you did?

Take a few moments throughout the day to Pause…

And watch.

It’s the changes I make within me

That will be reflected in the world beyond.


Exactly what DOES my heart truly want to see out there…

In this very moment?

Where Is Worthy?

“Some people can’t believe in themselves until someone else believes in them first.”

Sean Maguire

Where does this quote lead your heart and mind?

This is what came to me:

1) It is 100% likely that any person I come across today does NOT believe in some part of their own worthiness. They cannot yet see the whole miracle that they are.

2) It is 100% likely that I will have a thought along the same lines about myself. I cannot yet see the whole miracle that I am.

3) In what way today will I share a smile, an expression of gratitude, perhaps even forgiveness…

To another?

To myself?

THIS is where worthiness resides:

In seeking it…

And in expressing it.

4) Am I willing to commit to a daily practice of Looking for Worthiness…

All around me…

All within me…

Until we ALL believe?

Until we all see endless miracles everywhere?

Please know and remember this:

You are worthy of such a practice.

So am I.


100% Worthy.

Pause just a moment longer.

Now what do you see…


I send peace always to each of you…

As you walk today in your outer and inner worlds.